Married Name
I don't really have to worry about changing my name with marriage, unless I really want to and can think of something that speaks to me (and Tara) as a good last name for 'us.' We each like our last names, so I imagine we will keep them, although we joke about The Walkoffs (a blend of her and my last names), and how it sounds like a cheap department store or part of a law firm (Walkoff, Myers & Bernstein).
We will not be legally married because, well, we can't. So that eliminates the bureaucratic level of the "should one of us change our names" discussion and brings it into the realm of (expensive--$500ish) personal choice. An aside: One of my friends just paid this unseemly amount to slightly change the spelling of her first name legally, to match what she's been using for, oh, years.
I recently stumbled across an article that has some cool implications for equality. This time it's the guys who are getting the raw deal, but the whole system is sexist and set up not to encourage men to change their names.
Women, if you get married, you can change that name for $50-80s. Guys: there's no place on the marriage form (or whatever paperwork you fill out--hard to say because I CAN'T HAVE ANY) for you to do that. I suspect not only would you have to fork out the $500 like my friend, but also endure a lifetime of forms that didn't ask for your "maiden name" (even the terminology is gender-specific; who ever heard of a "bachelor name"?) and then caused undo stress later on, when it looked like you suddenly began existance right around the time you got married...
Interesting stuff.
Did you change your name when you got married?
My sister did although she kept the same initials, which I think is pretty cool, and also probably a lot easier than transitioning halfway across the alphabet.
We will not be legally married because, well, we can't. So that eliminates the bureaucratic level of the "should one of us change our names" discussion and brings it into the realm of (expensive--$500ish) personal choice. An aside: One of my friends just paid this unseemly amount to slightly change the spelling of her first name legally, to match what she's been using for, oh, years.
I recently stumbled across an article that has some cool implications for equality. This time it's the guys who are getting the raw deal, but the whole system is sexist and set up not to encourage men to change their names.
Women, if you get married, you can change that name for $50-80s. Guys: there's no place on the marriage form (or whatever paperwork you fill out--hard to say because I CAN'T HAVE ANY) for you to do that. I suspect not only would you have to fork out the $500 like my friend, but also endure a lifetime of forms that didn't ask for your "maiden name" (even the terminology is gender-specific; who ever heard of a "bachelor name"?) and then caused undo stress later on, when it looked like you suddenly began existance right around the time you got married...
Interesting stuff.
Did you change your name when you got married?
My sister did although she kept the same initials, which I think is pretty cool, and also probably a lot easier than transitioning halfway across the alphabet.
posted by wen at 10:23 AM
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